Dating can be a challenge for everyone, but being an LGBTQ Christian can make it even more difficult. The LGBTQ Christian community faces challenges from their religion and sexual orientation, but once you are comfortable with who you are, it gets a little bit easier. At this point in your life, you know who you are and what you believe in, and this guide will help you find a partner that has those same values and beliefs. Here are some tips inspired from allthingschristmas.com/10-christmas-themed-dating-ideas/ article to help you find the right partner without losing yourself along the way.
This is an important first step in finding a relationship as an LGBTQ Christian. Take your time finding the right partner with values that match your own. One of the biggest mistakes that we can make is to get so excited to find someone with the same religion that we cling on to them before really knowing them.
“So what that they don’t want kids, maybe they’ll change their mind.”
“I don’t care that they never want to get married. I can live without that.”
If any of these sentences sound like you, please stop. Often we put ourselves in situations where we compromise on issues that shouldn’t budge. If you want to get married, then find someone who also wants to get married. If you want kids, then find someone who also can’t wait to be a parent. We often settle for a relationship that won’t fulfill us long-term. So before anything else, make sure your values and future plans align with your partner before getting serious.
Know where to look
The best way to find a potential partner is to surround yourself with people like you. You should focus on surrounding yourself with other Christians who accept you. Once you find that group, make sure you are participating in events and spending time with them. Then, the right people will come to you.
If you prefer online dating, then find the right one for you. There are plenty of dating sites that allow you to specify your sexuality and religion. This will make it a lot easier to find people with at least the same ideas that you have, and you can then get to know them from there. Remember, be as honest as possible on the dating site regarding your values and goals. Then, people who view your profile will know right away whether they should start a conversation.
Give your time to things that matter to you
Volunteering is a great way to help others and give your time to something that you are passionate about. Maybe it’s building homes for low-income families or fighting for LGBTQ rights. Either way, giving your time to a cause that matters to you will help you find other people who also support those causes. Shared values are vital for a successful relationship, and supporting the same cause is a significant shared experience. Not only does this give you a great opportunity to meet new people, but volunteering can help other people in need. Being a Christian for most people means giving back. So, don’t forget that on your journey to find love.
Let love come to you
You’ve heard the saying before about not looking for love and letting it come to you. Well, that works to an extent. This doesn’t mean to not put yourself out there or not sign up for that dating site. However, if you are looking too hard, chances are you won’t find the right partner. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to find someone. Your main focus should always be you. Make sure that your life is full without a relationship. Focus on school or your career rather than finding love. We don’t know who the right person is or when they will come along, but that doesn’t mean that we have to be miserable before we find them. Be the best version of yourself, and you’ll be happy with or without a partner. A partner should add to your happiness, instead of being the one responsible for it.
Hold on to who you are
The most important part of dating as an LGBTQ Christian is not to lose who you are. Your beliefs and values are an essential part of who you are, and though they may slightly change or shift over time, it is crucial to hold on to and stay true to them. Not everyone is going to agree with the way you live your life, but that should not stop you from living the way you do. So, go out and meet new people, but don’t let them try to change you.
Often, the LGBTQ community is attacked for simply being themselves, and this is a struggle that we deal with almost every day. So, surround yourself with people who support you and lift you up. Hold on to your values and stay strong in your beliefs, and the right person will come along.
These are just a few tips for LGBTQ Christian dating. Most importantly, protect yourself and your mental health. We’re not always going to find the right partner as soon as we start looking. So, take your time and make sure your life is fulfilling outside of a relationship, and when you’re ready, put yourself out there and start your search for the right partner.